I cringe at the thought of taking up space. Physically. I attempt to squeeze myself in, in hopes that everyone else is comfortable. I don’t fit into small spaces. I am big. I am tall. I am heavy. I am trying. Trying to lose the extra weight that I’ve picked up over the last few years. Relationships. Friendships. Emotional eating. I carry the weight of my story, physically. Am I becoming uncomfortable in my own body? Maybe. I didn’t ask to be this way. My comparative mind barr

I closed all the apps and put my phone on the charger. I could feel the tears building in my eyes. What the hell is this? Here I am, sitting at the airport, headed to one of the most beautiful places in America, and I’m losing it. I’m completely losing it and I can feel the break down coming soon. I wanted to just bust into tears so bad. And I had no idea why I was upset. This isn’t the first time I’ve encountered this overwhelming emotional happening. Every blew moon my emot

Follow me h*es, PERIOD! Cut that check, I'm serious! Lol heyyy Pretty Vee. As you can tell from the title of this write up, we'll be chatting about Instagram. And if you know me, you know I have a love-hate relationship with 'The Gram.' I love following all the guru's and getting my motivation up. I love the pics and videos and all the connectedness you feel. I hate that it's considered a highlight reel and that people feel like they can just say whatever. Also hate when I st

Top 5 Top 5 Top 5! Y'all know I love music and if I had to listen to a genre for the rest of my life, I'd choose R&B. Something about chill vibes and soulful beats just hits my soul a special way lol. Now these 5 albums I'm about to share with you all are a few of my faves. I'm not saying these are the best albums ever and I'm not trying to argue lol. Let me say that first because I know how music folks get lol. But let me share with y'all a few albums that won't ever be out

There's beauty in the struggle ugliness in the success. Beauty is pain. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You are so beautifulllll, to meeeeee lol. Let's talk beauty my friends. For some folks, beauty is top priority and for some, it's not so important. Personally, pouring into my "beauty" is an effort in self love. I like to make sure my skin is clear and my hair is laid and my nails are on point. I like nice clothes and beautiful aesthetics and all that jazz. Today I'm

About a week or so ago I had the opportunity to attend "Owning the Block: The Blueprint to Igniting Your Success." This was a "conversation series created for aspirational Millennial women and Generation X'ers seeking the knowledge and tools to think big." This was Karleen Roy's first event in her hometown and it was featuring one of my favorite bosses, Myleik Teele. If you've been around this blog for a while, you know I love both of these women tremendously. So I was excite

I'm sure you remember being a kid and being so excited that you could jump off the porch. No fear in your heart, you were ready to try it. You jumped off one step, then it was two, next thing you know you're a stunt double lol. I remember watching my older cousins jump the whole porch lol. I would say to myself, one day I'll be able to do that. Oh the heart of the child lol. There's nothing like it. But jumping off the porch looks a little different when you get older. Them k

We've all done this life thing in several different ways. Our experiences and upbringing have shaped several things about our characters. Some of us have shared experiences, especially black people lol. And it's fun to share stories and laugh together about how our parents were so similar. We also share some of the sames traumas and it helps to share stories and learn how to cope together. But here's the thing, if we never tell our story or share ourselves with others, how wi

God can speak through things and people that you wouldn't even expect. Have you ever experienced this? A child says something that sparks your brain in an unimaginable way. A random stranger gives you a gem in conversation that sticks to your soul. You read something on social media that completely READS you lol. Or you just downloaded the Pattern app lol. I was having a conversation with a friend and I was explaining to them how God speaks to everyone differently and it's up

There is this overarching idea in life that you have to figure out what you’re good at and you have to master it. It’s your niche. You have to specialize. Don’t be a jack of all trades and a master of none. Pick your lane, stay in it and dominate. When folks ask you what you do, have a solid answer. If you can’t explain what it is you do in 1-2 sentences, you’re not really clear on what you do.... sound familiar? Have you heard any of this before? I know I have, several times

There's no time like the present to get things in order and cleanse your space. The most evident version of cleaning would be removing clutter, duh. But what about getting rid of the negative energy that may be lurking in the shadows. "Energy Debris" can be a result of many things, from negative emotions and thoughts, to stress. It can be said that your house or your space is like a sponge. The walls and furniture can absorb all the energies present in the room. Smudging your

Have you ever experienced writer's block or creative block? No matter what you do or what you try, you just can't get in the groove. You can't find the motivation or the inspiration. Your brain is clouded and you're just tired of it. Sound familiar? Yea I been there too. And it can be hard to shake sometimes so I've compiled a list of my best 7 ways to spark creative inspiration. One or all of these will help you get out of the gutter and back in your bag! 1. Meditation: I kn

Inhale peace, exhale chaos. Breathe fam. I know life comes at you fast and that's why sometimes you have to give yourself space. Space to think. Space to unwind. Space to breathe. A moment alone. Sometimes you need to just give yourself SPACE. In a world full of constant updates and access to tons of information at your fingertips, sometimes you just need to take a step back. Step away from everything. If you're anything like me, you internalize things far too much. You feel

Every boss has a bad day, it's inevitable. Things happen. But as a boss, you can't sit around and sulk in it because you have things to do. We have our moments and we push through. Some bad days are harder to conquer than others so here are a few tips for beating a bad day like a boss: Tip #1: Prayer and Meditation: Take a moment to realize that bad times and troubles don't last always. Center yourself by grabbing your crystals, lighting a candle and calming your spirit. When

They say the more you know, the more you grow. I've noticed that personally these last few years of my life have truly been about personal growth. And I'm talking personal growth in all facets of my life. Sometimes we don't even realize how far we've come or how much we've grown until we are put in a situation that tests our "grown-ness," if you will. Personally, I've grown in my communication skills. There was a time when I would become silent in the face of conflict or not

If you're like me, you use or carry your crystals everyday. Whether it's tucked away in your bag or around your neck, its getting action on a daily basis lol. And just like the human body, your crystals can use a cleansing after a long day. Cleaning our crystals allows us to get rid of any negative energy your gem has picked up along the way. Now there are several ways to cleanse, some of which are particular to certain crystals. Here are a few of the most popular methods to