Most folks don't like to talk about their failures. I'm sure lots of us want to put them in the back of our minds and forget about them. Sometimes failure makes you feel small. It makes you feel vulnerable and open. If I'm being honest, I never really wanted to talk about my failures. I didn't want to be judged. I didn't want to remember how i felt in the moment. But, big or small, failures assist in the shaping of who we are and who we're suppose to be. Failures are character builders.
I've learned not to shy away from discussing my failures because they may help make someone a better person. If I had to pick one "failure" to reflect on at this moment, it would probably be a time not too long ago where I let myself be completely open and vulnerable for a guy who didn't truly have my best interest at heart. I was all in. In wayyyyyy too deep. And he was playing with my emotions. I failed to cover myself. I offered my all to him. But the thing is, we can spin every failure into a blessing and there's a blessing in every lesson. This experience helped me learn about myself. I learned about what I really want from relationships. I learned how not to confuse a true relationship with a situationship. I learned and I still continuously learn from this situation to this day. I learned about what I wasn't going to take from a man. I learned to value myself.
One night at church, our Pastor told us that it is necessary we share our failures and our trials and tribulations as a means of evangelizing and ministering. Everyone christian is an "Ex-something." There is someone, somewhere, going through the exact same things you're going through or have gone through. God works magic in many mysterious ways. Through sharing how you got over and how you got through, you are being a light for someone else going through their own adversity.
What is life without failure. If you don't fail, you can't win. No one gets everything right all the time. We have to realize and comprehend that nothing worthwhile will come easy. Sometimes failure simply means changing directions. Priorities switch up and you decide to take a different route or tackle a goal with a different tactic. The point is, don't fold to the pressure. Failure isn't the end of the road. You just need to dust yourself off and try a different approach. Like Cardi said, knock me down 9 times but I get up 10. Real ones know how to bounce back and bounce back again. Never, ever, give up. PERIOD!