Story Time! So let me give you some background before I jump into why and how this nigga offended me…. SO, My name is Rae lol and I am the oldest of 4. Therefore, in the 5th grade, my parents got me a cellphone so they could keep in contact with us in case something happen…. Fastforward to 2018 anddddddd I still have the same phone number lol!
So now that you know that, let me jump into this brief story lol. So usually I just get up out of bed when my body wakes up, which is any time between 9am and 11am (Judge ya motha, im living my best life lol) Anyway, a few days ago I woke up at about 9:30am. I open my eyes, rub my face, say a quick prayer of thanks and grab my phone. On the front screen is a few text from my family and an email. So I open the family thread and update myself but I notice there are 2 more texts that had come through with no notification….. One of which is not important to this conversation but the other was from an ex…… here’s where it gets interesting…
Mind you, me and my current PIC/BFF/Ace/BF have been together for 2 years… So the ex-text reads:
“I know this is kinda weird texting you at this time over two years but I just wanted to apologize for everything you were such a good friend to me I didn’t think that situation would make you stop being in my life hope all is well”
This text was sent to me at 1:47am. So this man was on some late night reminiscing ish. Mind you, the "situation" he's refering to is me finding out he had an on-and-off girlfriend of FOUR YEARS!
So me being the growing glowing adult that I am, I kindly text back and say “Good morning, who is this?” Upon finding out who it is, I commense to being an adult, wishing him well and accepting his apology…. but of course the conversation couldn’t end there. He wants to discuss all the BS of the past and how I just dipped on him and blah blah blah
Now its too early for this mess so Im just shutting it all down. OHH YEA Y’ALL, I STOPPED MESSING WITH THIS MAN BECAUSE HIS GIRLFRIEND (WHO I HAD NO CLUE EXISTED) DECIDED TO START LURKINGG AND LIKING ON MY IG PAGE!
So now i’m irked because this really ain’t about him being an adult and apologzing, this man has the audacity to believe that he was going to pop back up and I was going to be in the same mindset and position I was in 2 years ago y’all..!
This negro said, “I never got my chance, so what now?” At this point, I’m convinced he actually believed that this conversation was going to lean in his favor. And now I’m lightweight offended!
Let me tell y’all, 2 years ago I was in dark place. I was everywhere. I was a mess. And I was emotionally unavailable. When I say it took a lot off work, dedication, patience and prayer to get to this position and mindset that I have today…. MAN. And here he is, 2+ years later, thinking i’m still open to rehashing bullshit that put me in the dark place i was in before.
It took everything in me not to cuss him out. And i know what y’all are probably thinking- Sis why didn’t you just ignore him?. But I thought this would be me cutting off a loose end, ya feel me? But sis, NIGGAS REALLY THINK THEY SLICK!
Moral of the story is, some men mature a lot slower than us ladies. And they will try to reach out and pull you into dark places and spaces that you’ve worked very hard to separate yourself from. The fact of the matter is, if you approach me stuck in the past, I have to dismiss you. I’m not there anymore. I’ve forgiven myself for everything I did and I’ve forgiven everyone that did me dirty. I’m past it. So keep that mess away from me. No ex formed against me shall prosper lol. HE TRIED IT, and failed.
Don’t let these men slick talk you back into the BS. You’re growing and glowing sis, STAY WOKE lol.